Blood is thicker than water. No it’s not!
Blood is not thicker than water. Often when I hear this statement, what I’m really hearing is someone thinks they’re in a gangster movie or someone who is laying out the terms of why you should help them, and they know you don’t want to!
Some people are blessed with great, supportive families, and if you have that. You know you’re blessed, and you already appreciate what you have.
However, some of you know family isn’t worth the name on your birth certificate. Hollywood and Disney like to make us think family will do anything for us, we should do anything for family. No matter what has happened, being born to the same parents means we should provide ever lasting support, and an endless supply of 2nd chances.
No, no, no and no. Some people are just arseholes, and if you’re related to them it sucks. You know they’ll ask you for money, embarrass you at a family get together, free load off you at every opportunity, or the worse of the worst. The ones who always get into trouble and everyone in town knows, that’s your sibling and you are tarnished with the same brush.
It’s a strange dynamic. Because we grow up together we have this belief there should be a bond, but we forget. When we are kids we don’t have a choice about who we could hang out with. We were forced to play with our siblings, but as we get older we start to notice how little me might have in common, and sometimes when we move out of the family home we discover we don’t feel a bond.
This could be with parents also. If you’re someone who is close to their family, you might be surprised by the number of people who feel no real connection to their parents, and certainly have no love for their siblings.
On the other hand you may have some great friends, who have had your back, been there when you really needed someone, and there is a connection. Unexplainable chemistry, but deep down you love them, like you would a sibling. In fact, your bond with them is like you are family, and then there is the other bond.
The partner, the lover, the person who shares the roof over your head, and is part of all your plans for the future.
This bond is thicker than blood.
This bond pulls you too them.
This bond creates an imaginary future in which you picture growing old with them.
To round up. It is nonsense to suggest blood if thicker than water, that family alone must tie us to an unwritten rule. Which you must always obey, and more often than not obey the rules for someone who doesn’t deserve your love or loyalty and has quite possibly thrown you under the bus more than once.
A quick search on the internet and I found two different meanings in history.
Blood is thicker than water is a medieval proverb in English that means that familial bonds will always be stronger than bonds of friendship or love. The oldest record of this saying can be traced back in the 12th century in German
The actual saying is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb”. ... The saying actually means that bonds that you've made by choice are more important than the people that you are bound to by the water of the womb
Maybe the latter is true, and maybe then….. Blood is thick than water!